“follow your heart” they say. “do what feels right” they say. “They” being my first long term relationship my teachers my friends my coaches my professors my trees the whisper in the wind. followyourheart whatfeelsrightisright but how exactly does that happen? How do you know what feels right and what is just the Dickensonian...
Read more →Remember the story of Hansel and Gretel? Once upon a time they were a brother and sister, children of a woodcutter in the German forest. Their parents, completely desperate and too poor to feed them, kept trying to lose them in the woods so they wouldn’t have to kill them or watch them starve...
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This is my ugly yellow chair. I’ve had it since I was 21. It has moved a lot. It has stood by me through everything. And it is still comfy. But let’s face it: that fabric is probably as old as I am…and it isn’t timeless. Danielle LaPorte is one of my favorite writers and...
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There is a French press full of coffee on the kitchen counter as I type. I’ve just finished breakfast, and the sun is slipping through the trees, turning spots and bits golden against the fading green. The coffee is cold. It’s been cold since yesterday afternoon. Yesterday afternoon there were four or five guys...
Read more →Incredible, fascinating paper that’s as old as I am, originally published in 1975 by the Bulletin of the Atomic Scientists. (In other words, this person didn’t just pull these theories out of nowhere.) It discusses culture, pleasure, violence, and even a little theology. Utterly riveting. Well worth the 45 minutes, especially if you have...
Read more →Pleasure-based budgeting is the way to go. Yeah, I just said “pleasure” and “budget” in the same sentence. We’re pleasure-driven creatures. We do stuff because it feels good. We want to live our lives so they feel good. Usually we start with how much we make and portion it out, like a pie chart....
Read more →This is about losses. The kind no one knows how to talk about, not really. You can’t say it, you can’t always see it, but it matters. And I do know how to talk about it, after the fact. I’m an introvert, after all, so I talk later. I tried spilling my guts for...
Read more →Julia Terry is one of the amazing accidents of my life. We happened to meet online, and then we happened to be able to meet offline, and even though we rarely see each other she’s one of those wise, laughing, real people that I love to know. She wrote this and posted it in...
Read more →Check it out! The NYT has a whole article on vibrators–not so much the history of, but the current trends. If you don’t believe me, believe them–when a major newspaper can publish this, the world is changing. Time to celebrate!
Read more →I’ve got a full day coming. Three clients right in a row, class in the afternoon, consultant call in the evening. I’m excited about all of it. I love my work, my classes, and my business. And I want today to shine, baby. SHINE. Not just glimmer, flicker, or glow. SHINE like midday on...
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